…God via Christianity, and religion in general, would not allow me to be...– Annalise Fonza, There is No Wipe-Out Story: An Ex-Pastor’s Journey to Atheism
The Horror Movie Theory of Abusive Relationships
From the comments at Captain Awkward, on this post: http://captainawkward.com/2012/01/09/question-169-my-dad-hit-me/#comment-6082 Marie January 9, 2012 at 1:51 pm Oh man, it really does feel that ridiculous when you look back on it. You watch one of those horror movies, and the sinister voice says, “LEAVE NOW” and the characters are like “What was that? I’m sure it was the cat. Everything’s...
Boundary issues and highly difficult people
Captain Awkward, a superb advice columnist, was introduced to me by @celeloriel. Entertaining and very educational, thanks! http://captainawkward.com/2012/05/14/247-marrying-into-a-family-with-awful-boundary-issues-or-secrets-of-dealing-with-highly-difficult-people/#more-3020 When Alice throws a tantrum, she wants you to inventory your behavior and wonder what you’ve done to upset her, and she...
A primer on how to recognize a toxic relationship →
I really want to just quote the whole thing here, but it’s long so I’ll pull out a few choice quotes. “But many controlling people aren’t obvious or extreme. Some relationships exist on the continuum between “abusive” and “great.” They’re codependent or toxic or they rely on what is called “ambient abuse”—not overt, visible forms of harm, but subtle ones that gradually take away...
arletterocks: A word on “creepy”: I know it gets thrown around a lot without necessarily being explained, so I’ll take a crack at it. Read More